When I was pregnant with my first child, it all seemed so simple. I was horrified by the way I saw some parents interact with their children, and I swore to be nothing but loving, gentle, understanding and sensitive with my child. Above all, I was never going to let my child “cry it out”! The last thing I wanted was an overload of stress hormones to stunt their development and make them needy for the rest of their lives. Especially since I knew firsthand how painful it was to feel needy most of the time.